Why is that? Have you ever been around someone who complains about everything! I'm sure you have and it is NOT a pleasant experience.
That person drains the very life energy from an event or gathering.
It also takes a lot of energy on the part of the complainer.
They are so busy complaining that they fail to notice what does works about the event.
Their focus is on what doesn't work for them rather than what does work.
I never fully appreciated the idea of no complaining until I traveled on several trips abroad with my church.
The minister had one rule and that was 'no complaining'.
When traveling abroad, things will go wrong, schedules will get changed, things get lost, you eat new foods, and usually can't speak the language.
There is ample opportunity to complain.
What I noticed on these trips is that everyone honored that rule.
If someone slipped, they were gently reminded about the rule.
It made the entire trip much more pleasant and the energy level was one of cooperation and finding solutions.
I have found that when I'm exposed to a complainer that my energy level is drained.
I try to point out the good things that are happening, which isn't always appreciated.
I've also noticed that complainers are generally pretty miserable.
They definitely have no passion for life, how could they, they find fault with everything.
When people start to complain in a group, you can be sure that it will catch on like wild fire and the energy of the group will be sucked into the vacuum of complaining.
Are you a complainer? Start to notice and ask yourself these questions: When do I complain? How often? What do I complain about? How do I feel when I complain? How do people respond to me when I complain? How to Reduce Your Complaining
- Notice it - the first level of awareness is to recognize when you are doing it.
- Stop it - when you notice yourself complaining, stop.
- Focus on what works - after you stop complaining, find something positive about the situation and say it out loud.
- Notice how you feel when you switch gears from complainer to solution and possibility finder.
It is your choice.